“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” – James Baldwin
My approach as a practitioner is one of subtle rebellion against a capitalistic culture in which I deconstruct beliefs that we need to strive, be better and fix. I do not stand with forcing or approaching transformation from a place of judgment or deficiency. That does not mean change will not take place….
I believe that it is through our own deepening understanding of our life’s material – patterns, themes, challenges, resources, and more – we can cultivate compassion and internal resources that support shifts on the emotional, behavioral, physical and soul seated level.
I recognize that changing patterns is difficult. That often patterns know more about their reasons for being there than we may know ourselves. I create a space to encounter, with curiosity, and see what is ready to be revealed.
Through becoming authentic and honest with oneself we gain the opportunity to embrace our own humanity, to soften, have a sense of humor and perspective.
Can we expand our capacities for change to emerge naturally? Can we partner with our own growth process?
Truth is, our lives may still appear the same on the outside while our internal perspective may differ. I am interested in that perspective. In our choice points. In that places where we can begin to say and live new stories. Where we can expand and meet the unfolding of our growth.
Healing is not a finished product that can be neatly packaged and checked off the list. It is a process – sometimes messy, chaotic, sometimes exalted, joyful.
How do we relate to of getting in and out of posture? That is the teacher. Are we overly ambitious? Are we fearful, holding back? How do we relate to our art making? That is the teacher. Are we critical? Thinking or wishing we could do otherwise? Are we rushing through it? How do we relate to our body? That is the teacher. Are we resistant to ailments or pain? Do we strive to be different?
Learning about our tendencies is learning about ourselves. Tendencies aren’t bad or something we have to get rid of, but we always can expand our repertoire.
If you would grow to your best self
Be patient, not demanding
Accepting, not condemning
Nurturing, not withholding
Self-marveling, not belittling
Gently guiding, not pushing and punishing
For you are more sensitive than you know
Mankind is as tough as war yet delicate as flowers
We can endure agonies but we open fully only to warmth and light
And our need to grow is as fragile as a fragrance dispersed by storms of will
To return only when those storm are still
So, accept, respect, and attend your sensitivity
A flower cannot be opened with a hammer.
-Daniel F. Mead